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Things I experience as an alienated Parent/Mother

Coping as an Alienated Parent/Mother

Being an alienated parent/mother is very traumatic

It has been a year since I became and alienated mother/parent but I still experience many if not all the emotional/psychological and physical symptoms of trauma.  I believe it is important to recognize the signs.  I have been very lucky that I have the aid of a great counselor. I recognized the need to seek help early into the alienation because I knew that emotionally/psychologically and physically I was suffering and needed someone to talk to.  I have seen this counselor for almost a year – I continue with my sessions because nothing has changed and the trauma still exists.  My counselor has become my friend, confidant and mentor.  I needed someone who was not involved and could see things from the outside to help me with understanding.  I am very fortunate that I have this.  My sessions have kept me as grounded as possible during this very trying time.

Below is a list that could indicate you are suffering from emotional and psychological trauma.  As an alienated parent, the sudden loss of a child can affect you tremendously.

Why was this traumatic to me?

  • I was unprepared for it
  • I felt powerless to prevent it
  • it happened repeatedly
  • someone was intentionally cruel
Emotional/Psychological Symptoms
  • shock, denial or disbelief
  • anger, irritability, mood swings
  • guilt, shame, self-blame
  • feeling sad or hopeless
  • confusion, difficulty concentrating
  • anxiety and fear
  • withdrawing from others
  • feeling disconnected or numb
Physical
  • insomnia or nightmares
  • being startled easily
  • racing heartbeat
  • aches and pains
  • fatigue
  • difficulty concentrating
  • edgy and agitated
  • muscle tension

If you are alienated from your child, you could be experiencing many of these things.  I recommend you find a good support system, including professionals who can help you work toward being healthy.

I must remind you that I am speaking only from my experiences.  I am not a professional.

 

alienated mom
alienated mom

I am a Mother of three, a photographer and lover of nature. I have been alienated from one of my children and my goal is to gain understanding, knowledge and reunification in this journey.

2 Comments

  1. Alicia says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve been Alienated from my twins boys whom turn 3 today. We have been apart since November 3, 2015 . I feel hopeless.. I’m not coping very well at all. It helps to read others like me . I don’t understand how this isn’t recognized as Child Abuse . I’m a resident of Oklahoma. I want to learn more so I can make a difference. It saddens my heart .
    Thank you
    God Bless

    • alienated mom says:

      Thank-you for your comments. It is a very difficult thing to deal with. It has almost been two years for me. I will never give up but with each passing day, it becomes more difficult. Don’t give up on your children. They need their Mom. They need both of their parents.
      Take care, Alienated Mom

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