It has been a year since I became and alienated mother/parent but I still experience many if not all the emotional/psychological and physical symptoms of trauma. I believe it is important to recognize the signs. I have been very lucky that I have the aid of a great counselor. I recognized the need to seek help early into the alienation because I knew that emotionally/psychologically and physically I was suffering and needed someone to talk to. I have seen this counselor for almost a year – I continue with my sessions because nothing has changed and the trauma still exists. My counselor has become my friend, confidant and mentor. I needed someone who was not involved and could see things from the outside to help me with understanding. I am very fortunate that I have this. My sessions have kept me as grounded as possible during this very trying time.
Below is a list that could indicate you are suffering from emotional and psychological trauma. As an alienated parent, the sudden loss of a child can affect you tremendously.
Why was this traumatic to me?
If you are alienated from your child, you could be experiencing many of these things. I recommend you find a good support system, including professionals who can help you work toward being healthy.
I must remind you that I am speaking only from my experiences. I am not a professional.